A few months ago, I was asked to speak to a group of parents in my area. The topic I was asked to emphasize was “Successful Parenting”
If that wasn’t intimidating enough, the gentleman who asked me said, “Now what we are really looking for is practical tips and ideas that can be taken home and implemented immediately into the homes of those who attend. We want them to leave feeling empowered, capable, and edified.”
HOLY COW! I stopped breathing and IMMEDIATELY had a non stop movie playing in my mind of ALL the things I’ve done to completely scar my children into eternity and beyond!
I’ve spoken to big groups before and I’ve spoken about some really sensitive topics- but Parenting- this is a very personal and a VERY sensitive topic!!
Parenting is one of those things that can stir a lot of emotions- people can easily feel judged, inadequate, and defensive– and when any of that happens, lots of people just turn off and come up with a million reasons why the suggestions won’t work in their home.
Man, this felt like a heavy task- and I didn’t want to get it wrong in any way!
I pondered and prayed, prayed and pondered. I felt the challenge of giving useful and realistic suggestions that would leave parents feeling ready to go home and make a few tiny tweaks if desired rather than leaving them feeling powerless and flawed in any way!
Parenting has been a wonderful gift to me, pits and valleys as well as peaks and heights!
Parenting is hard, it is often thankless, and it is almost always EXHAUSTING…
but if you can step back out of all of that and realize what a gift it is to be able to influence the direction, course and outcome of someone’s life-
to be THE person that someone thinks of when they think safe, secure and happy! Well, my friends, that is a rare and unique blessing!
After a lot of thought, I came up with a defining moment in my own parenting journey that shifted my thoughts and my focus and redefined how I chose to live this parenting journey.
It was the realization that my focus needs to be on a “To Teach” list and not on my normal “To Do” list!
It was when I began to look at my role as a mother in this way- as a teacher and guide of my children’s life journey that I realized nothing seemed burdensome or tedious anymore.
Nothing seemed trite or menial in my day; I found an increased desire to help them GAIN something out of our time together and we found reason to incorporate joy, teamwork and beauty into every day-
Because let’s face it, the reason for this mortal journey is that we might truly live and experience joy!
I shared five suggestions that seem to have made a positive impact on our family. Because they are very general, there is plenty of room to customize these suggestions for your home and family life.
Suggestions for Successful Parenting
1. Create a Vision for Your Family
2. See the Potential in Your Children that they often
can’t see in themselves
3. Create in Your Homes Opportunity for Children
to recognize the Spirit of the Lord early in their Lives
4. Hold Regular Family Councils AND Involve the
Children in Big Decisions
5. When BIG Issues Arise, Follow after the Parenting
of a Loving Heavenly Father- His ways will ALWAYS
show you what is needed in your home